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Feel The Funk / Lauryn Hill writes essay about "Everything"
« on: August 29, 2018, 05:00:27 am »
Please Lauryn, put out some new studio albums!  Even Sade puts out stuff more frequently, lol.. it's all love..  :-* :-* :-*

https://medium.com/@Ms.LaurynHill/addressingrobertgalsper-f08c20e02ffe


’ve remained patient and quiet for a very long time, allowing people to talk, speculate, and project, while keeping my nose to the grindstone fighting for freedoms many folks aren’t even aware matter. The arrogance of presumption that allows someone to think that they could have all the facts about another person’s life and experience, is truly and remarkably… presumptuous.

People can sometimes confuse kindness for weakness, and silence for weakness as well. When this happens, I have to speak up.

I apologize for the delay in getting this posted, I was late in hearing about it. I understand this is long, but my last interview was over a decade ago…

‘Addressing Robert Glasper and other common misconceptions about me (in no particular order)’
By Ms. Lauryn Hill

-It’s not completely informed, but he’s entitled to his perception. Context certainly helps though.

-You may be able to make suggestions, but you can’t write FOR me. I am the architect of my creative expression. No decisions are made without me. I hire master builders and masterful artisans and technicians who play beautifully, lend their technical expertise, and who translate the language that I provide into beautifully realized music.

-These are my songs, musicians are brought in because of the masterful way that they play their instruments. I’m definitely looking for something specific in musicians, and I absolutely do hire the best musicians I can find. Not every band had that particular ‘something’ I was looking for. That doesn’t make them bad musicians, just different than what I needed in that particular moment.

-The Miseducation was the first time I worked with musicians outside of the Fugees who’s report and working relationship was clear. In an effort to create the same level of comfort, I may not have established the necessary boundaries and may have been more inviting than I should have been. In hindsight, I would have handled it differently for the removal of any confusion. And I have handled it differently since, I’m clear and I make clear before someone walks in the door what I am and am not looking for. I may have been inclusive, but these are my songs.

-I have come across the occasional musician who thinks they already know what I want, feelings and egos can be easily bruised when you tell them they actually don’t. I am never trying to intentionally hurt anyone’s feelings btw, but when people insist that they know you and don’t, you may have to be equally as firm to demonstrate otherwise.

-I am paying for a service, and looking for something SPECIFIC, which isn’t up to someone else’s interpretation or opinion. I have my own idea of what works for me. That shouldn’t offend.

-And I definitely don’t like to fire anyone. It did take me meeting a lot of people over a number of years to find the right musicians, but my current band has been with me for a long time, the newest members probably 2/3 years, some as long as 7/8 years now. I was looking for a similar natural chemistry with new musicians that I’d had with the Fugees and Miseducation bands. I’d literally grown up with some of those musicians. That isn’t easy to find.

-In 2008, I had only a young man helping me and my Mother, after disbanding my former support staff. No idea why any musician would have had knowledge of what I was being paid, not sure what he’s saying is accurate. Don’t have the details or recollection of cutting the band’s pay in half. If fees had been negotiated and confirmed without my knowledge, I may have asked for them to be adjusted. But I would never just cut a musician’s pay arbitrarily unless I had a legitimate reason. There are artists who do cut pay though, James Brown was notorious for docking musicians if they did something he didn’t like, I’m sure there are others.

-It was necessary for me to reestablish trust and cultivate a new environment. I was looking to challenge myself artistically. I was also openly challenging music industry norms. I’d left ‘the machine’. With ‘it’ went some polish, but the cause we were fighting for, creative integrity, was worth far more than a little polish to me.

-When you’re a popular artist or public figure, people can sometimes forget that you’re hiring them to perform a service, and that you’re not the one there to entertain THEM. I didn’t scream or yell. Maybe I didn’t provide the experience that a musician may have wanted or expected during that time, but I was straight-forward, direct, and about the business at hand.

-Making my art is a labor of Love, but it’s still labor, and can be labor-intensive at that. If a musician was looking for a cushy job filled with the same trappings I was purposely weaning myself from, we wouldn’t have been on the same page anyway. Make no mistake, addiction is a common snare laid to dismantle the integrity of artists. My environment, at that time, operated more like a rehabilitation clinic than an after-party.

-I don’t think most people, perhaps not even some celebrated artists, are aware of the battle it takes to be an artist and remain true to what you really think. I don’t even ‘practice’ small talk, so I’m never confused with someone who can be seduced. There are traps all around, what could look like a successful career in entertainment today, could be an addictive lifestyle of convenience attempting to control you tomorrow. I set the tone with every band that working for fame and accolades is a different walk than fighting for personal integrity and making art that doesn’t compromise itself for money.

-I’m confused as to why such a principled musician, who thought I ‘stole’ from his friends, would show up to work for me anyway. 🤔 If that was hypocrisy or opportunism instead of genuine interest, it would further explain why an artist would feel the need to put his or her guard up.

-No matter how incredible the musicians who play with me are, MY name is on the marquee. The expectation to make it all come together is on me. The risk and the financial losses are on me. Hence, MY VIBE, though not the only consideration, is the priority. Few people actually know what this road is like, but many want to judge and comment, having never done it. Try doing what I’ve done yourself. If nothing else, you will gain some insight into and respect for my process.

-During the time in question, I also believe I was playing a lot of new music with controversial content. FOR ME, rehearsal was about readying myself for the battle I knew I was entering into for simply not allowing a system to pimp me. If I was on edge, I had good reason to be.

-Perhaps my seriousness and militancy in the face of tremendous resistance was misinterpreted as meanness, or that I was unloving or uncaring, when my true intent was to protect. I wouldn’t be the first Black person accused of this. I don’t think of Harriet Tubman’s skills as those of a hostess, but rather her relentless dedication to helping people who wanted out of an oppressive paradigm. #IGETOUT

-People also unwilling to ‘play the game’ might have found that environment refreshing. Straight talk isn’t devoid of Love, it’s just devoid of bullsh#t.

-And just to clear up an old urban legend that somehow people still believe, I do not hate white people. I do, however, despise a system of entitlement and oppression set up to exploit people who are different. I do loathe the promotion and preservation of said system at the expense of other people, and the racist and entitled attitudes it gives rise to. The lengthy history of unfairness and brutality towards people of color, especially Black people, has not been fully acknowledged or corrected. The expectation is for us to live with abuse, distortion, and deliberate policies, meant to outright control and contain us — like we’re not aware of our basic right to freedom. I resist and reject THESE ideas completely. Like many Black people, I work to reconcile my own generational PTSD. I do my best to Love, pursue freedom in body, Spirit and mind… and to confront. To repress everything in the name of ‘getting along’ is to deny our right to healing. It’s an ugly, distorting and complicated history at best. We’ve been shaped by it for better or worse. I just choose not to pretend that it’s not there in order to maintain public approval and gain economic advantage. My true white friends and colleagues and I discuss these schemes and machinations, and the distrust that people of color would naturally have toward such a system and towards those who agree with it. We don’t run from those conversations, we run into them, which is why I can call them friends and colleagues. Within these relationships I can be my complete self, and not a splintered individual/soul repressing the truth about generations and generations of abuse.

-There were lots of issues both personal and in the world of entertainment during that period that needed resolve. I was definitely going through a significant transition. I no longer felt safe.

-There’s an entire album about that, it’s documented and called Lauryn Hill MTV Unplugged. For some, the Unplugged album provided useful insight during dark times, gave important context on some real but hidden issues, and helped people going through personal struggles, because I’d exposed myself in such a raw and vulnerable state.

-Who are you to say I didn’t do enough? Most people are probably just hearing your name for the first time because you dropped MINE in an interview, controversially. Taking nothing away from your talent, but this is a fact.

-The Miseducation was my only solo studio album, but it certainly wasn’t the only good thing I did.

-I was also a member of the Fugees, another groundbreaking, multi-platinum selling group, who bridged social and cultural gaps, and were ambassadors of hip-hop all around this planet. We laid important groundwork upon which an entire generation of artists and musicians still stand. We broke through conventions and challenged limited world views every time we played.

-The song To Zion gave encouragement to women during challenging pregnancies. There are children who were given a chance at life because their Mothers experienced moral and emotional support through this song.

-What about the image of Black women in hip hop? When exposure and sexualization of the Black female body was the standard, SOMEONE stood up and represented a different image entirely, giving a generation of young women options and alternatives of self-representation. #AMNESIA

-And let’s not forget that I am a mother of 6…

-Not only have I been instrumental in pushing forward the culture of live music in hip-hop for decades now, but I’ve been traveling with and employing a large band for many years, despite the economic challenges in doing so. Others have followed in my footsteps, seeing the value of live music.

-Show me an artist working now who hasn’t been directly influenced by the work I put in, and I’ll show you an artist who’s been influenced by an artist who was directly influenced by the work that I put in. I was and continue to be a door opener, even if the blind don’t see it, and the prideful are too proud to admit it. I lived this, you watched this and heard about it.

-97.9 The Box, feel free to not play my music if you agree that ‘I haven’t done enough.’

-I never told anyone not to look me in the eye, that may have been something someone said assuming what I wanted. However, I would understand why an artist would say that. It’s about reaching a level of vulnerability while making or playing your art, and not wanting to worry about being examined while you’re in that process.

-There are plenty of people, I’m sure, who THINK they know me. This can happen when you do anything that people Love or feel they can relate to. Their perception of me, however, doesn’t make it my reality. Sister Act II is a movie. Rita Watson is a character I played…in a movie, for those confusing that with real life.

-And yes, Ms. Hill was absolutely a requirement. I was young, Black and female. Not everyone can work for and give the appropriate respect to a person in that package and in charge. It was important, especially then, for that to be revealed early.

-I adore Stevie, and honor Herbie and Quincy, who are our forebears, but they’re not women. Men often can say ‘I want it done like this’ and not be challenged. The same rules don’t always apply for women who may be met with resistance. When this happens you replace that player with someone who respects you and the office you hold.

-My approach to making music is non-traditional, possibly non-linear, and more a product of my heart, soul, and experience gained through doing, than something I was taught in a formal school setting. Not much different than the genre of hip-hop itself.

-I never held myself out as some accomplished guitar player, I play to articulate better to seasoned players what I want. It’s an instrument I learned without any real lessons or instruction. I play in an unorthodox manner and use it as a writing tool. Couldn’t or didn’t tune my own guitar? That sounds like an assumption.

-I take rehearsal seriously, I take performance seriously, I take my art seriously. My particular preparation process suits me. To each his or her own. My goal is to feel confident and free on stage.

-I don’t think my process is for everyone, which is why band selection is so important. It’s not just about how well someone plays, but also their attitude. I’m not offended when people say it’s not for them, no more than they should be offended when I say this doesn’t work for me.

-Auditioning, btw, may have nothing to do with how good a musician is. If a musician isn’t accomplished, he or she wouldn’t have been called. An audition or meeting could be about whether we vibe well, whether they understood my particular musical vernacular or direction at the time. I could have a jazz beast on keys, who couldn’t necessarily play reggae or some other musical style I also incorporated into my performances.

-My sound is eclectic, I’ve been influenced by a wide variety of music. Like language, music isn’t always easily translatable. Someone could be a great player, but lack the ability to capture the feel or groove of a particular style.

-I’m attracted to musicians that are open and excited to try new things. When people think they already know what needs to be known, and aren’t interested in exploring what I’m into, that’s fine, but it doesn’t work for my band.

-A fair weather band is a complete impracticality, a liability even. I’m expected, through my art, to pour out the depths of my soul. Some days that’s easier than others. If the crew of people supporting me aren’t built for that walk, they shouldn’t be there. #Realtalk. Some people vibe well together, some don’t. It’s ok. Ignorant patriarchy is a b#tch though,

I could speak volumes…

-My standards are too high, and my process too idiosyncratic, not to work with people who really want to be there. When I don’t have that, I keep searching until I find them.

-I remix my songs live because I haven’t released an album in several years. There’s a ton of backstory as to why, but there’s no way I could continue to play the same songs over and over as long as I’ve been performing them without some variation and exploration. I’m not a robot. If I’d had additional music out, perhaps I would have kept them as they were. I didn’t, so I revise and rearrange them according to what I’m feeling in that moment. This way, my performances are heartfelt and authentic, not me just going through the motions. I can’t imagine why that would be a foreign concept to anyone who appreciates jazz.

-And the myth that I’m not allowed to play the original versions of my songs is…a myth (anyone who’s seen my current show knows this).

-There can also be an energetic or emotional transference when I perform, and it can be heavy/weighty at times. As an artist, I’m tasked with bringing a different vibration into the space that transcends this. Not an easy gig but an important one. I can imagine there are people who value this process and don’t mind waiting a little if it means experiencing something inspired.

-Me being late to shows isn’t because I don’t respect my fans or their time, but the contrary, It can be argued that I care too much, and insist on things being right. I like to switch my show up regularly, change arrangements, add new songs, etc. This often leads to long sound checks, which leads to doors opening late, which leads to the show getting a late start. This element of perfectionism is about wanting the audience to experience the very best and most authentic musical experience they can from what I do.

-I reject being pigeonholed or pinned down by someone else’s uninformed concept of me. I’m my own person, free to explore my potential like everyone else.

- Where I am in one chapter of my life isn’t necessarily where I’ll be in the next chapter. I reserve the right to be an honest artist in those moments and not a fabrication, fake or phony version of myself, because that’s what someone else likes.

-I don’t owe anyone self-repression. Some fans will grow with me, some won’t and that’s ok.

-Life is to be lived, it’s not a full-time performance you put on for others, so people won’t have bad things to say about you in interviews.

-Hip-hop was born through people who didn’t necessarily have traditional musical training, the best tools, and in some cases even instruments, but found a way to express themselves despite that. My art exists because it has a will to exist, like hip hop.

-The album inspired many people, from all walks of life, because of its radical(intense) will to live and to express Love. I appreciate everyone who was a part of it, in any and every capacity. It wouldn’t have existed the way that it did without the involvement, skill, hard work, and talents of the artists/musicians and technicians who were a part of it, but it still required my vision, my passion, my faith, my will, my soul, my heart, and my story.

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General Discussion / Any Peeps Heading to Dragon Con?
« on: August 27, 2018, 02:40:25 pm »
Any Peeps Heading to Dragon Con?

This will be my first time going.  I'm not totally sure of what to expect, I just plan on browsing as I find interesting stuff to see or experience there--

www.dragoncon.org

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Feel The Funk / RIP Aretha Franklin
« on: August 16, 2018, 08:11:39 am »
www.arethafranklin.net

https://www.freep.com/story/entertainment/music/aretha-franklin/2018/08/15/aretha-franklin-vigil/995752002/

https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/people/2018/08/15/aretha-franklin-vigil-detroit-church/995724002/

https://www.nbcnews.com/pop-culture/music/aretha-franklin-s-detroit-church-holds-vigil-ailing-singer-n900841

I'll try to post more local stories as they happen-- her father's church New Bethel Baptist will be the center of lots of attention in the days to come.  I guess the funeral and local memorial will be announced in the coming days.  And even though she was never a Motown artist I suspect that there will be an event held at the museum on W. Grand Boulevard soon.

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Latest Flicks / A remake of Enter the Dragon
« on: July 24, 2018, 04:13:33 am »
uh oh.. internet breaking time.

So who would they even get to play the Bruce Lee role?

If they do remake this, then I say go with the "original" plan to have Jim Kelly survive until the end.  (Have him be from Detroit and film his "backstory" segment here!!! "tryin' to set me up! booeeee!!!")



https://www.cbr.com/david-leitch-enter-the-dragon/

*****************************************************Director David Leitch, fresh off the success of Deadpool 2, might have found his next action vehicle. Leitch is reportedly in early talks to direct a remake of Enter the Dragon.

The original Enter the Dragon was released in 1973. It has since become one of the most important and influential kung-fu movies of all time. The film starred Bruce Lee as a Shaolin martial artist who takes part in a martial arts tournament, partly because he’s forced to help bring down a crime boss, but mostly to get revenge for the death of his sister.

Still, Leitch’s invlovement isn’t a done deal. According to Deadline, the director is still in early talks to join the project.

RELATED: Enter the Dragon Filmmakers Reflect on Bruce Lee’s Most Famous Role

Enter the Dragon was a massive success at release, becoming one of the first martial arts breakout hits globally. Tragically, Lee died just before the release of the film, at the height of his fame.

The prospect of remaking such an iconic film is a risky one, but Leitch has a solid history with the action movie genre, not just with his previous two films (Atomic Blonde, Deadpool 2), but also as the co-director of John Wick. He’s also a former stuntman and action unit director to boot.

Other directors like Spike Lee and Brett Ratner have previously been approached to direct an Enter the Dragon remake, but it sounds like Leitch might actually get the chance.

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Latest Flicks / James Gunn bounced from Guardians 3
« on: July 21, 2018, 05:27:03 am »
wowww........

I wonder just who is going to end up as the director now?  Gunn was obviously a major creative force on the Guardians films.. (who were his script collaborators?)..

Off the top of my head, I figure after this "dies down" (especially since this was apparently instigated by alt-right trolling) maybe a few years from now, Gunn might get involved with another Marvel project for film or TV.

https://www.cbr.com/james-gunn-apologizes-rape-pedophilia-jokes/
https://www.cbr.com/james-gunn-statement-guardians-firing/
https://www.cbr.com/guardians-dave-bautista-defends-james-gunn-condemns-disney-firing/


Last week, a number of years-old comments made by James Gunn, in which the writer/director made off-color jokes about topics including rape and pedophilia, surfaced online. Though Gunn apologized for his comments, it was announced the next day that Disney had severed all business ties with him, including his current job writing and directing Marvel’s Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 3.

While Gunn subsequently released a statement in which he took full responsibility for his comments, and that he accepted and understood Disney’s actions, one of his GotG stars has a different stance. Dave Bautista, who portrays Drax in the popular Marvel franchise, released a brief statement on Twitter last night in support of his friend and director. What’s more, he blatantly condemns the decision to fire him.

RELATED: James Gunn Apologizes For Old, Offensive Jokes About Rape & Pedophilia

“I will have more to say but for right now all I will say is this,” Bautista tweeted. “@JamesGunn is one of the most loving,caring,good natured people I have ever met. He’s gentle and kind and cares deeply for people and animals. He’s made mistakes. We all have. Im NOT ok with what’s happening to him”

Gunns comments had been pulled from the filmmaker’s now-deactivated website, were shared on Twitter by supporters of President Trump, and broadcast to a wider audience by alt-right provocateur and conspiracy theorist Mike Cernovich, who used them to bolster his claims of a “pedo network operating in Hollywood.” (“It’s still 3 am in California,” he wrote. “Disney is for an interesting day, as is San Diego Comicon, where James Gunn is scheduled to speak this afternoon.”)

RELATED: James Gunn Takes ‘Full Responsibility,’ Accepts Disney’s Guardians Decision

Later in the afternoon, Walt Disney Studios Chairman Alan Horn release a statement this afternoon, saying, “The offensive attitudes and statements discovered on James’ Twitter feed are indefensible and inconsistent with our studio’s values, and we have severed our business relationship with him.”

Gunn had recently completed a draft of Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 3, which had been expected to begin filming in January in Atlanta, in time for a 2020 release.

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General Discussion / Why Millennials aren't Joining Country Clubs
« on: July 08, 2018, 02:43:17 pm »
www.slate.com

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Why Don’t Millennials Join Country Clubs? Because Millennials Can’t Stop Working.
By RACHELLE HAMPTON

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A recent article from CityLab posed what is surely the most important question of our time: Why won’t millennials join country clubs? According to writer Kelsey Lawrence, country clubs are failing to gain a foothold among a younger demographic for a variety of reasons, not limited to their well-deserved reputations for racial and religious discrimination, exorbitant membership fees, “old-fashioned dress codes and rules about cell-phone use,” and the fact that country clubs have largely centered their social activities around one of the most boring yet expensive sports in the world: golf.

To combat their increasing irrelevance and shed their Caddyshack legacy, country clubs are attempting to adapt to a more broke and more tolerant generation, offering trial memberships for young professionals, doing away with initiation fees altogether, and offering activities off the putting green. Writes Lawrence:

To draw Millennials, many clubs feature more non-golf amenities—especially health and wellness options like gyms, personal trainers, and yoga classes. Tradition Golf Club in La Quinta, California, reported that its fitness center had hosted “guest lecturers on a variety of health topics as well as [being] the kickoff point for biking groups, and planned area hikes.”


But as Lawrence notes, they’re still competing with “new urban clubs” like The Wing, Soho House, and the Assemblage that are not only concentrated in city centers like most of millennial life, but also treat work as their cornerstone, rather than leisure. And that, more than anywhere else, is where country clubs are failing.

Contrary to the stereotypes, millennials tend to be workaholics. According to an online survey of 5,600 workers conducted by Project: Time Off, almost half of millennials identify as “work martyrs”—workers who are not only overly dedicated to their jobs but feel so indispensable that they’re wracked by guilt every time they take off. The survey found that “millennials are the most likely generation to forfeit time off, even though they earn the least amount of vacation days.” Email, Slack, and a variety of other technologies that define modern workplaces has only fueled that workaholicism—now work no longer ends, because it can be taken everywhere.



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The rising popularity of urban clubs like the Wing proves that some millennials are willing to shell out a decent amount of cash for a community—as long as that community comes with career-enhancing perks. Look no further than the descriptions for the most popular members only co-working spaces. Soho House aims “to assemble communities of members that have something in common: namely, a creative soul. The majority of our members work in traditional creative industries, with the film, fashion, advertising, music, art and media sectors, among others, heavily represented.” The Assemblage is a coworking, co-living and community space that bills itself as “collaboration for the future of humanity.” And the Wing’s front page declares in millennial pink that they’re a “work and community space for women.” WeWork, one of the most ambitious “community-based” startups, didn’t even bother disguising what that sense of community is predicated on in a fancy name.

These spaces blur the boundaries of work and life, turning leisure time into an opportunity for networking. And as much as millennials, myself included, talk a big game about wanting more balance between work and life, the increasing popularity of these spaces suggest we can never completely step away from work. Country clubs and the bucolic images of uninterrupted recreation that they evoke are the antithesis to the “work hard, play hard” ethos that urban clubs traffic in. If they want to survive, they should consider draining the pool and erecting an open floor plan office in its place.

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Black Panther / Panther vs Deadpool mini series
« on: July 06, 2018, 01:19:54 pm »
https://www.cbr.com/marvel-deadpool-vs-black-panther/


.... I guess we'll see how this turns out.  But I'll say upfront, I'm violently uninterested in TChalla being pwned by Wade Wilson.

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Sexuality / Can Casual Sex be a Spiritual Experience?
« on: June 21, 2018, 12:58:14 pm »
Uh, say what?

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Is casual sex a way to find ourselves? Are healthy hookups possible? Let’s explore the multifaceted role of sexuality outside a committed relationship.
I’m a serial monogamist. What I mean by that is I tend to always be in a relationship. I never try to find one, it’s just that they seem to fall in my lap without me having to do a thing. I’m not into dating and never have been. Most of my boyfriends started out as friends, or I met them through acquaintances or work and we hit it off. As a result, I rarely had casual sex, and if I did, it was a “friends with fringe benefits” kind of thing.

I’m also a very spiritual person and I never felt that hooking up with a virtual stranger could be in line with my idea of conscious dating. I thought the new norm of sex outside of a relationship was a little sad and lonely-feeling. There couldn’t be any intimacy or spiritual growth in the act of banging some random in the back seat of a car, could there?

When I found myself single in my 40s, I realized the dating landscape had changed significantly. Everyone was finding partners online. My sister met her husband through a dating site. My happily single friends were blissfully unclenching old “hookups are for hos” ideals and waking up sticky and satisfied next to men or women they’d barely just met.

My first reaction to all of this was to decide the dating world was slowly turning into a bad porn film, but after giving in to my curious nature and trying it out for myself, I changed my mind about casual sex.

I discovered hooking up can be a liberating and healing experience if you do it right.

Even though sex outside a relationship has become normative behavior—especially with Millennials—there is still a pervasive viewpoint that people who sleep around are insecure, have low self-esteem, or who have no ethics. Men who have sex with a lot of women are chauvinist jerks, and women who do the same are just trying to trap a partner.

There is also a ton of pressure on young people from older generations to find a partner, settle down, and start popping out babies as soon as possible. Monogamy and marriage are the ideal standard, and anything else is frowned upon.

It seems silly, though, considering the high divorce rates and unhappy relationships out there, to keep pushing this idea. Maybe going a little wild before settling down is actually a smarter choice.

Casual sex can help us figure out what turns us on, how to share mutual pleasure, and how to be more comfortable with our sexuality.

It can also help us release any guilt we’ve been carrying because of religious or societal beliefs—this is especially true for women and the LGBTQ community. When we hear the message that our sexuality is sinful or unnatural, we can feel that our choice to experience pleasure from it is shameful.

Sex-negative conditioning is a big deal because it encourages the idea that we should deny a part of ourselves that needs nurturing. When we choose to receive pleasure for no other reason than pleasure’s sake, we can reclaim the pieces that we’ve been told don’t deserve love.

If you think about it, sex is the purest form of creative energy. Everything biological, from plants to animals, makes new things with it. Human beings have the added benefits of using it to create joy, healing, and spiritual and emotional connections. Even the basest of encounters can give us an opportunity to evolve.

If we want to have meaningful, fulfilling sex, it’s important to lose the ego. When we use it to satisfy an emotional need to conquer or control—because we are under pressure, or to fill a void—we can get into trouble and create an addiction. It can cause as many issues as sexual repression does if we aren’t careful.

If you want casual sex—or any sex for that matter—to enhance your spiritual growth, it’s important to bring playfulness into the experience. One of the best things about hooking up is how easy it is to do that. You aren’t bringing any conflicts or manipulative tactics into the picture.

You can have fun without an agenda.

Playing the field helped me see myself a little more clearly. I realized that as I aged, I made the choice to play it safe more than I used to. I relied on outside approval and societal norms to shape who I had become. I passed judgment on myself in ways that were surprising to me when I saw them.

Once I recognized these things, I took the steps to change them. I became less inhibited. I also realized that, while hooking up can be a fun and meaningful experience, I prefer sex within a monogamous relationship. I can honor the introvert in me that prefers fewer, more intense relationships without being concerned that I’m trying to stay within the confines of societies idea of what’s acceptable.

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Latest Flicks / White Boy Rick: A Detroit Story
« on: June 05, 2018, 05:42:40 pm »
A new movie about currently incarcerated former drug hustler, Rick Wershe, aka White Boy Rick, who was doing it big for several years in Detroit in the 1980s before going down in a sting that landed him in prison for 30+ years.  And he was a teenager at the time.

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Matthew McConaghuey plays his dad.

some backstory articles:
http://gangsterreport.com/white-boy-rick-saga-the-bust-modern-day-motor-city-tragedy-can-trace-most-of-its-beginnings-to-shady-may-87-arrest/

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http://www.clickondetroit.com/news/defenders/the-simple-steps-it-could-take-to-release-white-boy-rick-from-prision

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Mastrmynd, Magic, what's good?

https://www.ajc.com/news/state--regional-govt--politics/georgia-election-stacey-abrams-wins-democratic-primary/eNWNZU440VRD1tQsZ0XY2K/

Updated May 22, 2018
By Greg Bluestein
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Former House Minority Leader Stacey Abrams won the Democratic nomination for Georgia’s top office on Tuesday, defeating ex-state Rep. Stacey Evans and advancing her quest to become the nation’s first black female governor.

She will face one of five Republicans in November in the race to succeed Gov. Nathan Deal, a competition that will test whether the state is truly competitive after more than a decade of GOP rule.

Abrams attracted national attention, big-name endorsements and millions of dollars in outside spending with her “unapologetic progressive” platform to flip the Georgia governor’s office for the first time since 2002.

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But she faced a stiff challenge from Evans, who tried to frame herself as the more ardent progressive. Evans fueled her campaign with nearly $2 million of her own money, pummeling Abrams with criticism for supporting a 2011 Republican-backed measure that cut awards to the HOPE scholarship.

Each of the Democratic and Republican candidates tried to carve out his or her niche in a race that attracted more than $22 million in campaign contributions – and flooded the airwaves with more than $13 million in TV ads.

The Democrats largely abandoned centrist talk to appeal instead to left-leaning voters with a promise of implementing gun control, increasing financial aid for lower-income families and taking steps toward the decriminalization of marijuana.

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Stacey Abrams visited the AJC to discuss her run for governor. We had three questions for her.
That’s a stark contrast from more moderate appeals from a generation of Democratic candidates for governor, who often sought the National Rifle Association’s endorsement and touted fiscally conservative policies.

They are echoing many in the party’s base who insisted on that shift. Claudia Colichon, who lives in north Atlanta, said she demands candidates who embrace mass transit funding and fight for gun control.

“There needs to be a progressive change,” said Colichon. “People are seeing that conservative policies aren’t working.”

Abrams attracted far more national attention, picking up support from Hillary Clinton, Bernie Sanders and a string of other high-profile Democrats. Abrams raised about two-thirds of her campaign funds from outside the state, and national groups funded about $2 million worth of ads supporting her.

Evans mounted a lower-key campaign focused on local endorsements and smaller gatherings. The election-eve activities highlighted their differences. While Abrams held a large get-out-the-vote rally, Evans slung beers for supporters at an Atlanta bar.

Both Abrams and Evans united around a host of issues, including expanding Medicaid, growing the medical marijuana program and continuing Deal’s criminal justice overhaul. And both are outspoken opponents of “religious liberty” measures they say amount to state-sponsored discrimination.

The two attorneys also both were the products of hardscrabble childhoods that shaped their views of government, served together in the state House in their 30s and had up-close views of the tragic toll of substance abuse on their families with siblings who faced legal trouble.

But they’ve clashed on other issues, including how aggressively they oppose the NRA, how they would handle the state’s $26 billion budget and even how they would address Stone Mountain and other Civil War monuments.

The biggest policy divide, however, centered on the HOPE scholarship, which provides tuition aid to Georgia college students who maintain a “B” average.

Evans said Abrams betrayed her party by working with Republicans seeking cost-cutting moves to reduce the program’s awards in 2011. Abrams countered that more “seasoned” Democrats sided with her in that vote because they knew negotiating with the GOP would prevent deeper cuts.

The other central disagreement in the race involved strategy.

Evans banked on a more conventional Democratic plan to win over independent voters and moderates, particularly suburban women, who have fled to the GOP. Abrams has staked her campaign on energizing left-leaning voters, including minorities who rarely cast ballots.

The two competed for support in an increasingly diverse electorate and at times racial tensions surfaced.

There was the moment last year when Abrams supporters shouted down Evans at an Atlanta conference of progressive activists with chants of “support black women.” Evans, who is white, drew scorn with a video at Ebenezer Baptist Church that faded her face into the image of Martin Luther King Jr.

For Democrats, the divisive primary for governor was somewhat novel. Jason Carter, the party’s 2014 nominee, faced no Democratic competition. And former Gov. Roy Barnes steamrolled over opposition in 2010 during his failed comeback bid.

The party has also largely avoided fierce primary battles between black and white candidates for governor since the 1990 vote, when then-Lt. Gov. Zell Miller trounced former Atlanta Mayor Andrew Young.

Evans, who represented a Smyrna-based district, faced an uphill battle from the moment she entered the race. Black women form the largest bloc of voters in the Democratic primary, and Abrams’ campaign predicted African-American turnout overall could make up 65 percent of the vote.

To make inroads, Evans staged a slate of smaller rallies and meet-and-greets, and she relied heavily on prominent black officials to spread her message. She also spent far more heavily on TV than Abrams, inundating the airwaves with a HOPE-themed pitch.


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http://ew.com/movies/2018/04/16/jodie-foster-hotel-artemis-trailer/


Well, looks like they cribbed some stuff from Night Nurse, maybe?

top notch cast, I hope this is well put together.
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Fictional film folks operating outside the law rarely receive the best medical treatment (just ask Tom Cruise’s on-the-run cop in Minority Report). But what if there was a specific place where lawbreakers could go and have their wounds treated?

In the new, near future-set, action-thriller Hotel Artemis, Jodie Foster (Silence of the Lambs) plays a character called The Nurse who runs a secret, members-only hospital for criminals. The film is written and directed by Drew Pearce and costars Sterling K. Brown (This Is Us), Sofia Boutella (The Mummy), Jeff Goldblum (Thor: Ragnarok), Brian Tyree Henry (Atlanta), Jenny Slate (Saturday Night Live), Zachary Quinto (Star Trek), Charlie Day (It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia), and Dave Bautista (Guardians of the Galaxy).

“This is really original,” Brown recently told EW about what drew him to the film. “You’ve got a hospital for criminals, so these are bad guys, but he’s got a purpose beyond just himself, so he’s a good bad guy. … It’s got a dope cast. … It was one of Jodie’s first movies in several years. You’re working with one of the icons of the game, so there was nothing but pluses all the way around for your boy.”

Hotel Artemis will be released on June 8. Watch the film’s trailer, above.

Reporting by Maureen Lee Lenker

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There's a lot of Trump support in the suburbs, wealthy and middle-class and working-class areas alike..

I may check out the protest event, we'll see how it goes--

https://www.clickondetroit.com/live/live-stream-president-trump-holds-rally-in-michigans-macomb-county-on-april-28
WASHINGTON TOWNSHIP, Mich. - President Donald Trump is set to speak at a rally Saturday night in Michigan's Washington Township. You can watch the event live here.

When is the rally?

The rally is scheduled to be held April 28 at Total Sports Park on Powell Road. The event is expected to begin around the same time as the White House Correspondents Dinner. 


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Why is Trump coming to Macomb County?

The President will visit a county where he received 54 percent of the vote in the 2016 General Election. Macomb County helped him become the first Republican presidential candidate to win in the state of Michigan since 1988. 

During a rally in Warren on Oct. 31, 2016, Trump declared he would win in Michigan as he campaigned against Obamacare. He promised changes to the national healthcare law. 

The rally was held at the Macomb Community College campus in Warren. Several thousand people attended. Hundreds were turned away at the door because the venue was filled to capacity. 

Trump to be met with protests

On Saturday, Rally for Victory in Macomb will hold a counter-demonstration.

"We want to set an example in this county, especially for our young people, to prove that when you stand up for your values and organize, you can make real, lasting change," said Dan Colling, trustee for Lake Shore Public Schools and an organizer with Rally for Victory in Macomb.

The Rally for Victory in Macomb will be held at UAW Local 400 at 50595 Mound Road in Shelby Township from 4:30 to 7 p.m.

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Latest Flicks / Traffik: Paula Patton, Omar Epps
« on: April 21, 2018, 05:41:51 am »
I checked it out yesterday.  It was pretty decent, I'd give it a B.  All the actors, Paula, Omar, Rosalyn Sanchez and Laz Alonzo do a really good job.

The lead-in to the main plot happened a little slower than I expected.  The movie's barely 90 minutes, though..
There's a twist that's hinted at earlier on, but I didn't see right away.
The climax wasn't as action packed as I would have hoped.

I wouldn't mind seeing the main actors together in another film.


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Other Comics / Motor City Comic Con Media Guests 2018
« on: April 17, 2018, 03:56:06 pm »
http://www.motorcitycomiccon.com/category/media-guests/

Looks like the Black Lightning principals will be there- Cress Williams, China Ann McClain, Nafessa Williams-- neat!

As expensive as these events tend to be, I have to keep reminding myself that it's a rare chance to meet some of these people in person, lol.

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Vox Populi / Deneen Borelli, CRTV
« on: April 11, 2018, 02:27:59 pm »
I'd never heard of her before today-

Somebody on my Facebook feed shared one of her vids--

She's very cute, but sheesh... quite the GOP cheerleader.. lol.. ah, bless her heart..

https://www.facebook.com/deneenCRTV/?hc_ref=ARQigoWiRIrRu15GfzA_jkK5zlgwCe5TsHGdiVI1efsG9AsofI-wFqOpFkYfkn01oSU

https://get.crtv.com/signup/


And apparently CRTV is a paid-subscription based TV/web network, exclusively conservative-based, Fox without the Murdochs, I suppose.

https://www.google.com/search?q=deneen+borelli&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjTtuTSk7PaAhVH2oMKHQ4_CgEQ_AUICigB&biw=1920&bih=974

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