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Offline Magic Wand

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What would you do........?
« on: May 13, 2010, 11:35:15 am »
.....if you have friends who are married to each other and you catch one of them cheating?
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Re: What would you do........?
« Reply #1 on: May 13, 2010, 01:55:09 pm »
.....if you have friends who are married to each other and you catch one of them cheating?

I was recently in this situation. My wife’s girlfriend was having a full on relationship with some dude from her past that had resurfaced. The girlfriend’s husband is a great guy who deserved to know what his wife was doing.

If the husband would have been a close friend, no question – I gotta tell him.

But this guy isn’t that close to me, so I pussed out and said nothing.

The problem is, no good can come to the person who informs the one who is being cheated on.

If they split up, you’re the a-hole because you split them up.
If they stay together, you’re the a-hole because you told.

All bad choices. But like I said above, if the friend is close, you tell.

BTW, the couple in this case is now split up. The husband found some topless & lingerie pictures that his wife had taken of herself and sent to the affair guy via email! They have been split up about 9 months and the wife is onto new guy number 5 (give or take a guy).

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Re: What would you do........?
« Reply #2 on: May 13, 2010, 09:45:30 pm »
.....if you have friends who are married to each other and you catch one of them cheating?

In these recessionary times; I believe extortion is a viable option.

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Re: What would you do........?
« Reply #3 on: May 14, 2010, 07:08:38 am »
.....if you have friends who are married to each other and you catch one of them cheating?



Define 'cheating'.

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Re: What would you do........?
« Reply #4 on: May 14, 2010, 09:18:41 am »
.....if you have friends who are married to each other and you catch one of them cheating?



Define 'cheating'.

"Define Cheating" ...sounds a little Clinton-esque... :)

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Re: What would you do........?
« Reply #5 on: May 14, 2010, 09:41:54 am »
"Define Cheating" ...sounds a little Clinton-esque... :)




Define 'Clinton-esque':)

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Re: What would you do........?
« Reply #6 on: May 14, 2010, 01:21:52 pm »
"Define Cheating" ...sounds a little Clinton-esque... :)




Define 'Clinton-esque':)

Funny :)

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Re: What would you do........?
« Reply #7 on: May 14, 2010, 03:37:06 pm »
The problem is, no good can come to the person who informs the one who is being cheated on.

If they split up, you’re the a-hole because you split them up.
If they stay together, you’re the a-hole because you told.

All bad choices. But like I said above, if the friend is close, you tell.

I agree with the above-except for the last bit which I'm kinda iffy on.

It's seems to me that even your closest friends will have a "kill the messenger" attitude to that kind of bad news.

The second scenario (they stay together and you become the enemy)is depressingly common. :-\




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Re: What would you do........?
« Reply #8 on: May 16, 2010, 05:20:19 pm »
Depends on which one I'm closest to and who cheated on whom and with whom.

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Re: What would you do........?
« Reply #9 on: May 16, 2010, 06:53:55 pm »
I've been in this sitch a few times which is just sad and pitiyful. I've never told because YOU never come out the winner. Once the person pretty knew I knew and gave me ever opportunity to say something but I didn't. I came up short, they are still with one another and as a family unit friends we are not any more. My hubby once I told him he was so hyped about me hanging out w/ her etc. So when I say I keep a secret it goes with me to my grave :-X. I'll probably need an extra plot for the secrets.

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Re: What would you do........?
« Reply #10 on: May 17, 2010, 06:03:52 am »
So when I say I keep a secret it goes with me to my grave :-X. I'll probably need an extra plot for the secrets.



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