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My husband is leaving me for my 25-year-old daughter.
« on: December 10, 2011, 12:41:15 am »
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My husband is leaving me for my 25-year-old daughter.
By Emily Yoffe|Posted Thursday, Dec. 8, 2011, at 7:06 AM ET



Dear Prudence,
I have just had devastating news: My 58-year-old second husband of two years has been having an affair with my 25-year-old daughter from my first marriage. I am in a state of utter shock. I had absolutely no idea that this was going on and feel heartbroken, betrayed, and furious at the two people I love most. They want to live together, but where does this leave me? I do not know what to do. Can you advise?

—Betrayed

Dear Betrayed,
You are living a scenario right out of Woody Allen, only it’s a tragedy, not a farce. Allen himself is married to Soon-Yi Previn, the adopted daughter of Mia Farrow, who was Allen’s longtime companion and is the mother of three of his children. His son, Ronan Farrow, has cut off contact with Allen, explaining, “He's my father married to my sister. That makes me his son and his brother-in-law. That is such a moral transgression.” It must feel unbearable to find yourself in a parallel situation, realizing both your husband and daughter are morally repugnant. Without knowing any of the details about the relationships or personalities involved, one can only speculate about this couple. Perhaps your husband is just a sleazy sexual con artist. But though it hardly counts as good news, it may be that your daughter has an undiagnosed mental illness, possibly bipolar disorder. That disease can make people act in bizarre and self-destructive ways. Or perhaps she was sexually abused as a girl, feels you didn’t protect her, and is now acting out. Of course you’re in shock, and unfortunately there’s not much you can do except try to get through each day with the help of loyal friends and loved ones—and a good divorce lawyer. I hope you’re seeing a therapist so that you have a neutral party to vent to and help you deal with this pain. Perhaps you should think of what’s happened this way: Your husband and daughter were on a plane that’s gone missing. In the end your husband is going to be your ex and will be effectively dead to you. But if your daughter is mentally ill, maybe she eventually will be “found” and then slowly, painfully, you might be able to somewhat repair your relationship. If these two actually go on to shack up together, let’s hope no one who cares about you goes to their housewarming.

—Prudie


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Re: My husband is leaving me for my 25-year-old daughter.
« Reply #1 on: December 12, 2011, 02:33:43 pm »
Wow... That's f*cked up.

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Re: My husband is leaving me for my 25-year-old daughter.
« Reply #2 on: January 07, 2012, 01:49:17 pm »
Wow... That's f*cked up.

... second that!


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